While helping thousands of guys recharge their sex life, I noticed something very strange.

Many guys approach their wives for sex, while completely ignoring her current mind state. For example, it seems like the most popular method of initiating sex is just flat out suggesting it.

The guy just asks her out of nowhere: "Do you want to have sex?"

They suggest sex (or focus on convincing her to have sex) while refusing to understand that her desire for sexual passion is based on 'emotions'.

Could you imagine a guy walking up to a smiling woman and saying to her: "Could you start crying please?"

More than likely, it would be extremely difficult for her to produce 'wet' tears based on the mere suggestion.

Do you see where I'm going with this?

The key to having a long lasting amazing sex life is very simple. It's all about doing things that predictably affect her emotional state. Once she is the right sexually charged 'emotional state', there's no need to suggest it. In other words, if she is starring at you with a Sex Hungry look in her eyes, you don't have to ask her: "Do you want to have sex?"

You simply TELL HER: "Get on the bed NOW and take your clothes off!"

That's assuming that she hasn't already ripped your clothes off.

With that said, it's best to do things in stages. Emotional stages.

For example, if a woman experiences a certain emotional mind state, licking her slowly on her neck could give her the shivers. If you ever heard a woman moan as you are kissing her neck, you know what I mean. And kissing her there for just 9 seconds could instantly take up her 7 levels of excitement.

But you have to start with the first stage.

The good news it's easy as pie, but more importantly it's nearly impossible to not succeed at the first step. So here are 3 first stage tips to getting her tingly inside.

You already know that it's very important to make sure that your partner knows how much you value her. So when you start things off the right way she goes from a neutral mind state to a emotionally happy mind state. And that's because you made her feel special.

First Stage Tip #1 (For Getting Her In The Mood)

The physical gift is certainly the most classic expression of love. However, you don't have to just stick with candy, jewelry, and flowers. A gift more tailored to your girlfriend's interests and hobbies will let her know that not only do you care about her enough to spend money, you've been paying attention.

It's not the cost that counts, but how well a gift fits her. And if you do this the right way and at the right time, it could instantly get her in a romantic mind state.

First Stage Tip #2 (For Getting Her In The Mood)

Physical affection is an important way to show your wife how you feel. This doesn't necessarily mean sex.

A lot of women can feel like they're just objects of physical attraction without some cuddling and kissing. This kind of affection means a lot to many women. One great way to let your wife (or girlfriend) know how special she is to you is just by hugging her periodically. Of course, you should make sure she's not doing anything you'll interrupt, but a quick hug on your way to do other things can do wonders for your relationship.

And although it can very often get her instantly turned on, this can only happen if she doesn't get the impression that you are hugging her because you want sex from her.

So don't train her to reject your cuddling and physical affection by requesting sex shortly every time you display physical affection. Don't grab her breasts and rub her in a sexual way. You want your display of physical affection to communicate to her that you think she is special.

Be sincere about it. The more you realize and focus on the things that make her special, the more she'll feel it when you display your affection.

First Stage Tip #3 (For Getting Her In The Mood)

Remember to compliment her, but don't make it sound forced. If you think she looks really great, just remember to say so. Many women are very concerned about their personal appearance and the way people perceive them, and even though it seems silly, staying quiet could make her feel as though you don't appreciate her.

So if you find yourself appreciating something your girlfriend is wearing, take the time to mention it.

Remember once she starts to bubble with Smiling Excitement, it becomes a piece of cake to move her through a series of emotional stages until she predictably begs you to give her want she needs at her current romantic mind state.